How to Communicate with Your Child

How to Communicate with Your Child

Communication Skills Training for Parents makes a child come alive. It changes your parent-relationship.

Parent Effectiveness Training (P.E.T., training for effectively playing a parental role) developed by an U.S. psychologist, Thomas Gordon, rapidly spread all over the U.S. and has reached over 250,000 people in 28 other countries. Initially, many attended seminars because there were problems in the relationship with their children. However, as P.E.T. developed, it became important as a program for teaching techniques to prevent future problems in addition to being a self-help method. In fact, it is not unusual now to have a majority of the seminar attendants to be parents who have toddlers with problematic behaviors such as occasional tantrums and crying fits.

Learning P.E.T. can also help parents with toddlers and infants who have yet to develop any problems. Unacceptable behavioral problems can be solved in a way that is fair to both a parent and a child. This is possible without resorting to unilateral and authoritative lecturing. Please try to understand each child and respect each as an individual. By doing so, a child will gradually start to listen and eventually identify with you, the parent. This is where a communication in a true sense is created.

Here is an overview of the Communication Skills Training for Parents. Three types of communication skills are taught.

1. Listening:

We learn how to help a child solve her problems by listening to her feelings and encouraging her to express her true feelings.

2. Expressing Oneself:

We learn how to express our own feelings and ideas.

3. Solving Problems and Disagreements:

We learn how to reconcile a child's demand and our own feelings.

The results can be gleaned from the following comments from parents who received the training:

"We don't have to say 'No' do often any more."

"We can stay big-heated toward our children."

"Our bond has strengthened since I understand my child's feelings better."

"I am able to wait until my child starts to deal with things herself."

Children have changed as well:

"Kids stopped automatically rebelling and started listening to us."

"My child starts the conversation more often."

"Our children are much calmer now."

"Kids have become self-starters."

"Now they can state their own ideas and opinions."

"They became happier!"

The Best Gift a Child Can Receive:

We frequently hear that toddlers behave violently and lose patience quickly. An increasing number of children are self-centered and pick on others due to pent-up stress. Many others behave well in front of their parents but cannot communicate with other children. What is causing these children to behave in such manners?

One reason is that more children feel that their parents do not love them. We want to respect our children's independence. We want them to have confidence: we want them to grow up healthy physically and mentally. We want them to grow up to be people who can empathize with others.

Parent's hopes remain the same over generations. How can we realize these dreams? Everyone can become a parent. But, it is very difficult to become a parent in a true sense. In Japan, they say what we learn as three-year old remains with us until we are a hundred. Lessons learned as an infant or a toddler remains throughout one's life. Why don't we five our children the gift that enables them to have a truly satisfying life? By going through the Communication Skills Training for Parents and using it to communicate with your child, you can help your child to grow up to be independent while having a close bond to you. Further, these communication skills thus acquired can be used to communicate with people who are involved in your toddler's education, such as school teachers and other people working in our community.

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